probably researched schools before moving;
however, personal school visits will transform the unknown into reality. Visits to new
schools to survey the classrooms and meet
teachers will go a long way to allay your,
and your children’s, worries about the new
Listen carefully to each child’s concerns—
every move can bring new issues to the
surface. Encourage your children to maintain
contact with former friends, even while trying
to make new friends. Exchanging photos,
having e-mail access and possibly a cell
phone with a camera feature can help bridge
the gap between old and new friends during
the early weeks in a new location.
DEALING WI TH CHALLENGES
Keep in mind that every stage and every age
can bring new challenges. Children who
sailed through the last move could be in
an entirely different place emotionally and
physically for this move, so parents cannot
assume that a child will ease into the current
move. Routinely share accomplishments and
challenges with each other and talk about
ways to overcome difficulties. Children need
to know that even though the parents are
responsible for uprooting them, you both
have challenges to face, and you need to
work together as a family to solve them.
The following signs may indicate that children are struggling with the adjustment:
sudden reading difficulties, changes in attention span or study habits, weight loss or gain,
altered enthusiasm or energy levels, strained
relationships with you or their siblings,
or disturbed sleep patterns. Stay closely
involved with your children during the early
months in a new location so you know how
they are feeling, what they are thinking and
who their new friends are.
Consider volunteering or get involved with
CHILDREN AND SAFETY
the school so that you can see for yourself
how your children are managing. Both
adults and children need the stability and
comfort of established routines, so keep
the same rules, bedtimes, mealtimes, allow-
ances and expectations that you had before
moving. Refer to the Tips for Settling In
sidebar for more great info to help both you
and the kids.
When children are in an unfamiliar envi-
ronment, they can easily forget basic safety
rules. The following are always a good
an adult’s hand in crowded areas.
numbers to contact parents at all times.
get help safely if they get lost.
MEDICAL AND SAFETY
It is a fact that moving places additional
stress on individuals and consequently, they
are more vulnerable to accidents or illness,
not to mention unexpected flare-ups of
chronic health conditions. If an emergency
occurs, every second counts; therefore, as
a precaution, locate hospitals, pharmacies
and physicians that will meet your family’s
needs before an emergency arises.
Learn the procedures, telephone numbers
EMBRACE THE MOVE
and access codes for emergency care and
always carry medical identification with
you. Also, in an emergency, you may
forget your new telephone number and/
or address so before an emergency arises,
program them into your cell phone and
place written notes near each telephone
in your home, as well as basic directions
to your residence. Directions will not only
be useful for family members in the early
days at your new home, but they will also
assist babysitters and visiting relatives.
Whether or not you have children, or you
are married, single or retired, relocating to
a new community can ultimately become
a wonderful and enriching experience. The
suggestions in this article have worked for
many relocating families, and they can also
help your family become comfortable in
your new home.
As an aside, when people learn that I’ve
moved 19 times, the response is often “What
place did you like best?” My answer is
always the same: “Where my family was.” I
wish you all the best!
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About the Author | Beverly D. Roman founded BR Anchor Publishing in 1990 and has written more than 30 international and domestic relocation books. Two of her
books won the Employee Relocation Council’s Achievement Award for Special Purpose Programs. Her international newsletter has supported corporations and the military
in over 140 countries for more than18 years. Beverly served from 2002-2004 as founding chairperson for Families in Global Transition, Inc. (FIGT) an organization that
focuses on the most critical issues associated with international cultural transitions. Contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org, 904.641.1140 or visit www.branchor.com.